Out-of-Body Memories of Foster Wives

We were talking about memories yesterday. Here's a question; when you recall memories, do you see yourself from another person's perspective, or do you see things through your own eyes, as you would have seen them at the time? 

I see myself as if I was viewing the situation from a 3rd party's perspective - like an out-of-body experience, or a film director's perspective or observer perspective - which seems strange, as it's a perspective that could never have happened in reality.

We were also talking about foster children, foster parents, etc., and wondered why the concept of foster wives and foster husbands has never been thought of....