Saturday, 13 August 2016

Seating Conundrum

To have a wedding breakfast seating plan or not - that is the question. Why it's called a breakfast when the vast majority are in the afternoon is a historical point that's lost on me.

On the plus side  for a seating plan is that there's no anarchic free-for-all - people sit where you place them and no-one is wandering around aimlessly. The downside is that some of the guests may not know those with whom they are placed, leading to them feeling a bit out of it. You do your best, however, to  mix incongruous people together to stimulate lively chit-chat and Brexit argument.

The plus side for no formal seating plan is that people can sit with whomsoever they wish, perhaps leading to a more convivial atmosphere. The negative side is space wastage - there will always be some tables with a single spare place which a couple can't avail themselves of, meaning you have to  allow at least 10~15% more places than guests.

While I'm a seating plan Nazi (based on the assumption that people like to be told what to do), Hay tends toward the free-for-all, but doesn't get my insistence on having more places than guests, which I think is a recipe for disaster.

If there's no seating plan, we won't have a top table either. That naturally means that the key people will be spread around the remaining tables, which is not a bad idea, as they can gravitate to their own socio-economic and age demographic - or clique, as we experts call it.


Received the wedding car decoration ribbons from eBay yesterday - a snip at £3.99. I'm buggered if I understand the instructions though. Putting a ribbon on a car should be simple enough without having to read reams of instructions.

My off-white linen suit (from Samuel Windsor at £125 in their summer sale, which I was not keen on at the time of ordering and am still not that keen on - would have preferred blue) has been to the local tailor for alteration at the princely sum of £50, but now the cuffs are too short. I said at the fitting that I thought them a bit short, but both the tailor on the High St and Hay thought they were fine - but that was before the pink Charles Tyrwhitt shirt (£20 in their sale) with long arms arrived (no double cuff, so I can't even wear cufflinks). Makes me look like a gorilla and, knowing me, I'll end up looking like Sir Les Patterson at the reception; white and me don't mix. Going to have to get Hay's dad's girlfriend to do a quick job on the cuffs, as I'm not prepared to pay another £20 to the Chinese tailor in the High St for something I'll never wear again, unless someone decides, without my permission, to bury me in it.


  1. You can dye the suit after the wedding.
    If you go for a seating plan some people may be insulted by who you stick them next to.Good ruse if you want anybody to leave early for any reason ...

    1. Got a solution. Read Sunday's entry.

  2. 1. I know a habit from wild grey Poland is out of hand, but try to imagine how I did offend my husband's family was when I told them were to sit [15 years ago, now it's tolerated]. I spoiled the game of who's-the-first-to-catch-a-sit pretending not to rush for one.
    As a rule there's one endless U-shape table, so you have to put the guests in a kind of double line [not helisa at least].
    2. As my father has just got married again I've become a more involved fan of you page... Actually his seating plan was a hell easier - four people to place.
    All the best -
    Ida June